[on the subject of deadly weapons]
*Just some thoughts as I take a quick break from work.
Living in a small town has its benefits. A sense of community among caring and passionate people that encourages the sharing of ideas to further the quality of a conscious and deliberate lifestyle, support, and pooling of invaluable resources are my personal favorites. There’s comfort too, that comes with being unable to walk down the street without waving or stopping to talk to several people. Whether you’ve spent a long day pulling copywriting out of your butt to meet your deadline or chased a loose herd of cows, it’s the connection with other human beings that helps brighten your day
However, as human beings we’re prone to make countless mistakes on our roads through our individual and yet connected lives, and the bigger mistakes can be remembered for months - sometimes years - by the surrounding community, which can lend an unwelcome and claustrophobic feeling to your hometown.
And understandably. If your fuck-up touches many lives and has an immediate negative impact, people can hardly be blamed for keeping it at the fore-front of their minds as they pick up the pieces and continue. It’s where the unnecessary rumors come in that it becomes sticky, uncomfortable, and confusing, no matter how large the mistake.
As someone who’s a) no doubt helped further rumors of other people through mindless conversation or boredom - also passing poorly-formulated, unsolicited judgement on past behavior of others, b) MADE a serious mistake and become the brunt of similar rumors in a small town, and c) witnessed how past mistake and judgement/rumors work together to create a negative experience for everyone involved, I’ve (hopefully) become more adamant to keep my words and judgements to myself. There IS Instant Karma - and generally people need no help bringing it on themselves. Idle talk - whether in passing or maliciously - hurts you, your conversationalist, and the absent person.
So. Just be mindful. You might feel as if someone DESERVES to be talked about behind their backs, but retribution is (rightfully so) out of your hands. Change the subject. If you’d been directly involved in the topic at hand, think for a moment what YOU could have done to make things better for someone else, and then move on. Chances are, they’re aware of their mistake and still beat themselves up for it years down the road.
And THAT’S their karma: trust me…they don’t need any more help. Guilt is difficult enough to overcome on its own.